Paradoxes of human interaction - Peter Varholak

Honoured gentleman toastmaster members and male guests: you certainly experienced when you had been interested in the woman and she flaked and oposite, when you didn´t show interest she was suddenly interested. And beautiful toastmaster, ladies toastmaster members and female guests: you certainly experienced when man didn´t do right thing at the right time and it felt like he was not interested. But he was. And you heard it after a long time... Well these are paradoxes or in simplest words misunderstandings of human interaction. I want to talk about three of them.

1. Talk about yourself:

Forget about beeing humble and what people said in the past. When you first meet someone talk about yourself. Talk about anything you like also if it seems like stupid. The best thing is to talk about you as some kind of introduction but very vividly and interestingly. For example me. I introduced myself in my first toastmaster speach as dancing warrior. Because sometimes I fight you can see me with my sister in my uniform some time ago and sometimes I dance: you can see me dancing salsa with my friends. In my core I am introvert and I used to be someone not talking much. So I can easily compare this two. Years ago I needed month or more till people start to know me, my goals or part of my personality. Now I need half an hour maybe. It saves time, don´t you think? ...

2. Ask for help or advice or basically anything you want:

Humans - especially we men when look clueless seem like weak and it´s not desirable. But do you want better salary? Do you want to help with your bussiness? Do you want to know about new place for your favourite activity? You will be surprised. People will help you more than you think.

3. And my favourite one: Woman ask man for his telephone number

You say to yourself: yes, she asks me out, she will plan all meeting and then we will have great sex. Men: you are dreaming a really nice dream. Me personally I know one girl from several hundreds that is capable of doing that. Men are genetically born leaders and if you don´t ask for her number you indicate that you are not interested. So ask for it! Beside my experience I personally witnessed when one girl was very attracted to my brother, asked him out, hugged him and asked for his number only to never call.

Well as one of my mentors said " noone gave me set of rules how to live my life" and I was pointing only a few things that sometimes happen and you think that they work certain way but they are not. They all are from my humble life experience. I want to encourage all of you to think about them and find yours. Let´s understand better this world!